I say this with so much love beautiful.
If you’re often feeling ‘out-of-control’ as a mother, or feeling disconnected and not sure how to be ‘bigger, wiser, stronger, kinder’ like I always talk about- you’re not a bad person, a failed mother, terrible at following the latest how-to, or not good-enough.
No, absolutely NONE of that.
The thing is, you weren’t taught how to parent, especially not the ‘newer’ ways. You only got to experience what happened to you as a child, and observe what others around you are doing.
When I had young children more than 20 years ago- well- you wouldn’t believe how disconnected I was from myself and how I struggled to get a grasp on what was the ‘best ways’ to parent.
Even though I was a lovely heart-centred mother – I struggled with boundaries and would often feel exhausted, over-whelmed and wrung out. I noticed there were certain emotions with my children that I didn’t know what to do with – and I noticed my eldest child started not coming to me when things were really bad for him.
Ouch!!! This was the turning point for me. I knew something had to change.
At that time a friend had AH-mazing results from working with a mentor. The heaviness and worry had lifted and I noticed how much joy and enthusiasm for life she now had. She was so easy to be around and she really knew how to ‘be-with’ her 3-year-old girl.
There was something really magical about her presence.
I noticed she’d developed a very special connection with her 3-year-old. She knew what to say and do when she had big feelings. Her boundaries actually worked- and it seemed her child wanted these boundaries and was so bright and happy. Her child was exuding confidence and self- esteem – and was using emotional language that I hadn’t seen used before in children!
She suggested I do some coaching with this mentor.
At first I resisted – until she quoted these words:
“the best thing you’ll ever do for you is invest in yourself”
I hadn’t heard this before- however, it rang as true. So true. I got an instant flutter of excitement in my gut, and my heart opened in hope.
My intuition was saying YES, Hell YES!
I had to talk to my fears, soothe my worry about ‘spending the money on me’, and take a leap of faith. But… I did it.
And didn’t look back.
Having an elder mentor to take me by the hand was profoundly life changing. I discovered things in myself I didn’t know I didn’t know. The ripple impact on my children, my partner, and everyone around me was something that I couldn’t put a price tag on.
It’s one of the best investments I ever made.
Since then, I began working professionally in mental and emotional health for children, and then in self-care and self-healing practices for mothers and latest parenting. I did this alongside all sorts of body-mind-spirit trainings that transformed me from the inside out, and allowed my children to hugely benefit.
And I realized my genius was in helping other mothers have the same life-changing results as me.
So in 2013 I started my Intuitive Motherhood coaching practice (alongside still working professionally with mothers & babies, children and adolescents).
It’s been such a blessing to witness the transformation of these mothers as they too had the benefit of an elder to guide them through ‘new paradigm’ parenting skills alongside the powerful work of inner self-care.
“profoundly life- changing” is often the feed-back I get.
I want that for you too. Nothing changes unless we change something. What is that going to be for you beautiful?